Picking Up The Pieces

I’ve had visions of my first blog post after this recent lull, for quite some time now. It went something like this: a glorious video tour of the amazing 1906 farmhouse we had just bought that was still loaded full of original details just waiting to be uncovered and brought back to their original glory. Who better to do that than me?

I’d show you everything just as it was when we found it. Before I did a thing. Like I would literally sit on my hands if I had to in order to show you every nook and cranny before I had taken a solitary tool to any of it or ripped out a single piece of carpet.

Alas, my heart has been dashed into a million bits and, for the moment anyways, my dream of restoring an amazing piece of history, is dead once again.

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How did that happen, you ask? I’d tell you if I was completely sure myself but to be honest I’m still somewhat mystified at how a sure sale on not one home but two, can go so badly awry. And all due to some dishonesty on the part of one party who appears to be attempting to avoid reporting a portion of their income.

Banks don’t like that.

Banks change their minds about whether or not they are going to give you a large amount of money to buy a house.

Sometimes Banks change their minds at the last second. When all your things are in boxes and you are spending your last 2 sleeps in your current house and literally dreaming of your upcoming life in your new home and the adventure awaiting you.

And then it all comes crashing down. And because one person can’t keep up their end of the deal, sometimes everyone pays the price.

Sometimes lots of people get hurt including little children who don’t understand why all of a sudden they can’t move into the new house they have been waiting so patiently to move into. And why they can’t have those lovely new rooms they had already planned out and those playrooms they had their hearts set on. And that fish pond in the backyard that they have been talking about since the first moment their little eyes beheld it.

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And sometimes when your own heart is breaking you have to hold back the tears and the disappointment and you have to hold those children in your arms and plan a game of “let’s find the toys” and let them open up all the boxes of toys that have been packed away for the last several months.

And then you have to breathe really deeply and you have to start figuring out a way that you can make this all work in your own mind. For me, it looks something like moving all the furniture around the house into new positions and putting decor in new homes as I unpack it so I feel like at least something has changed and maybe I have a slightly different home? Maybe if I squint a little….

I will share the changes with you as I get more things unpacked.

Until next time….

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  1. You know how sorry I am that you’re going through this and it’s horrible. Reading this story brought a tear to my because of your kids.

    You are a strong mom and making it fun for them to rediscover their toys is brilliant.

    You will get through this and I believe you will find another home.


    1. stilettosandshiplap says:

      Thanks so much for your support and kind words, Cindy. I’m doing my best to help everyone through this tough time. I know we will eventually find something else, I just hope it doesn’t take us as long as it did to find this one!

  2. Laura says:

    Wow! What the heck happened? Sounds like everything came to a standstill! Are you and the family back in your “old” house? Something devastating seems to have occurred. Please keep your readers updated on your home situation. I hope for the best for you and the family.

    1. stilettosandshiplap says:

      I’m not sure that we will ever know the exact and total story behind it all but yes, everything pretty much came to a standstill just 2 days before we were set to close on both homes and move. It’s been kind of devastating for us all. Yes, we are still in our “old” house and I’m currently unpacking slowly and trying to put our lives in that home back together for now while we keep looking for another home to move to. It will likely take a long time to find another place that suits us as it did this time so we aren’t planning to stay packed up in the meantime. It’s too hard on the kids to live like that. Thanks for following along with our little saga…

  3. Well!!! That sure stinks! I’m so sorry this happened to you. How frustrating and aggravating.

    1. stilettosandshiplap says:

      Thanks Jodi! Yes, you could definitely say that it stinks! It has been quite the summer so far. A trial run at packing up an entire household for nothing, apparently! lol

  4. Jan Taylor says:

    So sorry but there will be bigger and better. Everything happens for a reason and there will be wonderful times ahead. God bless you and your family.

    1. stilettosandshiplap says:

      Thanks so much, sweet friend. I am trying to keep my chin up and just take this as a learning experience. It’s been very hard on us.

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